ADRENALINE, THE GOOD, THE BAD
& THE UGLY
& THE UGLY
Commonly we use activity and busyness to distract ourselves from our feelings or intolerable realities. this can be done by addictively going to movies, reading, watching sports on television, caring for pets and plants, exercising, spending, shopping or hoarding
You can also be addicted to interruptions it proves your are a busy person and needed. Or maybe you did not really want what would come if you succeeded at what you re doing fear of success afflicts many adults who come from dysfunctional families. If you have enough interruption then you have reasons not to succeed. This inability to stay focussed is a common problem for co-dependants
When people with doiing addictions stop distracting themselves with busy activity they begin to get in touch with their emptiness and loneliness. Its only when we can face and embrace the emptiness and loneliness that we can let them go and be free02
co-dependents and addictive types experience imbalance by operating in extremes. They juggle life and every once in a while - it all seems to come crashing down. Or they come so close to reaching that goal and having all their ducks in a row just before it all falls apart. so why are we so unsuccessful in our efforts to create and sustain balance Because we go about it back to front.
The way to achieve a high degree of balance is from the inside out, not outside in We are fascinatedwitht he way jugglers can juggle different types of objects in their hands, walk on tightropes and keep numerous plates busily spinning on thin sticks In keeping everything going the juggler appears to have incredible balance We watch with anticipation feeling the adrenalin pump. As long as he keeps moving fast he can keep those plates spinning. the jugglers act usually lasts only a matter of minutes and when they conclude their performance by gathering their plates and taking a bow, the audience applauds out of relief as much as admiration.
Sometimes in our efforts to have a full and balanced life, we are very much like jugglers But unlike circus entertainers we often keep our juggling acts going on for years and we can wear ourselves out in th eprocess. Why do we do it, Because we think that by keeping ourselves very busy, juggling loads of activities and people we will impress others and add a perceived significance to our lives. We also do it because we are running the biggest addiction going -we are addicted to our own adrenaline.
Adrenaline is a gift from God, helping us to survive and act wisely in emergencies. When you hear stories of a small women lifting a car to save a small child pinned underneath, its the adrenaline that gives this incredible strength. In emergencies or times when we have to kick in and go the extra mile, adrenaline is great. However we were never meant to live in this fight or flight state for ost of our life
Operating in extremes keeps the adrenalin flowing through our veins like a drug we become addicted to it because adrenaline cuts off feelings and gives the illusion of being alive and in control. We do not do this consciously infect many of us feel that running on adrenalin is normal
Underneath the frantic juggling system we feel that we are not enough. People who have the underlying feeling and belief that they are not enough believe that only by adding to themselves that they can be enough. By doing this when they are not busy, alone or when its quiet they become disturbed or frightened
In the stillness they think things like people don’t like me, what are they thinking about me, I’m not good enough, I don’t have what it takes
Jugglers usually look as if they have a full life they are hooked on filling up every moment so that they don’t have to be alone to face their distorted and painful reality When we hide who we really are in this manner we create stressful imbalance - hellooo adrenal fatigue
Yet we mistakenly keep trying to juggle those plates and even add more in illusionary pursuit of balance instead we need to stop adding plates and elaine our thoughts, experience our feelings and take an honest look our behaviours and connect with our true self
If we don’t the stress of struggling for balance progresses until we are in a state of burnout or we have a breakdown at this point we are usually so worn out in our physical addictions, emotionally bankrupt, depressed, have over reactive behaviour or we are intellectually negative or defensive.
When this happens we go looking for our fix and search for the meaning of our lives, we want to fill up the hole within us. But all of this is pointless unless you first empty your bucket, get rid of the spinning plates and sit with ourslevs, and get to know and love ourselves from within.